She’s Doing It: Madge and LaKeisha

by Gloria Feldt on August 31st, 2011
in Inspiration, Leadership, No Excuses, Personal Relationships, Power Tools, She's Doing It, Tell Your Story and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

Madge WoodsMadge Woods was a mediator and at a networking event, a woman asked her if she would like to mentor a parolee. The program was called “VIP Volunteers in Parole” and was then funded through the California State Bar Association. While Madge is not a lawyer, she was told they wanted her anyway and she agreed.

Her first parolee, in her words was “a disaster” and eventually after three years Madge “learned her lesson and moved on” and then she met LaKeisha Burton.

As I wrap up my next HeartFeldt Leadership BlogHer column on this very same subject, it is their touching story written by Madge I’m honored to share on this week’s She’s Doing It.

Mentoring a Parolee
A few years ago I started mentoring women parolees. It has been an amazing experience. For me a white, suburban woman raised upper middle class for most of my adult life, meeting my parolee changed my outlook for good. My mentee is a wonderfully smart 36 year old woman who spent 17 1/2 years in prison from age 15 1/2 to 32. She was only the second child tried as an adult. She was a gang member who fired a gun into a crowd hitting no one and killing no one yet was tried for attempted murder instead of the plea promised assault with a deadly weapon. Fast forward 17 years and she is finally paroled after completing her time with great skills and a positive attitude. It took ten years in prison before she got it together as she was very angry that her teenage years were taken from her. She accepted her incarceration totally and took full responsibility for every part of it.

I met her a month out. We were introduced by an organization, that unfortunately lost their funding because of budget constraints, whose record was fabulous and their return rate to prison was less than 5% of the people mentored. Homeboys and Homegirls in Los Angeles, two organizations that have successfully run a business operation for previous gang members, both have an unbelievable record and are still operating today.

Mentoring works and it saddens me and angers me when programs are lost when more prisons and incarceration take precedent and everyone wants to build places to house rather than programs that perform.

My mentee works full time. She has her own place now and is supporting herself. She is a model citizen and had she grown up in a home in a middle class suburb she would have gone to college. She would have been successful if just someone had taken an interest in her. She was smart and in school but acting out and no one paid attention. Her Mom was busy working to support her family. Her Step Dad had a business. Everyone was too busy surviving. One never understands all the ins and outs of people’s lives but environment of course plays a big part as well as genetics. But in this case I believe it was the environment.

When she got out she was like a teenager whose life had somewhat stopped at age 15 1/2. For example, she immediately thought she could walk into the DMV without ever driving a car and actually pass. I explained she could certainly try but after she failed twice she took my advice and had some lessons. We still laugh about that almost 4 years later. She called me to ask how you cook things and how to make choices in the market for food and how to talk to people on the outside. She learned recently how to make choices that we take for granted. When you are not given choices you don’t know how to make good ones or sometimes any at all.

She has amazing carpentry skills, speaking skills (Toastmasters in prison) and writing skills all learned in prison. She took advantage of every program in prison including getting first a GED (all that was offered originally) and then an actual high school diploma.

LaKeisha Burton & Madge Woods

I have found that mentoring is a fabulous outlet for exiting prisoners. This is where our emphasis should be. Pair someone from prison with someone who has worked in the community, lives a good life and understands how to work within the system. A person who is responsible and a person who will be there and listen to their ideas and goals and dreams and then help them realize it is indeed possible for anyone who does the work to achieve greatness. I am so proud to have been a part of a young woman who I have grown to love as if she were my own daughter. We hang out. We visit museums, art galleries and go to plays. These outings were never in her life before. To have watched her at her first play was amazing. She has given me far more gifts than I have given her but she would say it was me finding her. Really it was both of us finding each other.

Madge Woods


Madge Woods is the marketing director for the website, The Next Family and also for The Shame Prom which is a dynamic twosome of writers Hollye Dexter and Amy Ferris who conduct workshops on how to explore and rid women of shame. Their next workshop is being hosted by Madge on October 16th in West Los Angeles, CA.

Madge also hosts her own blog @


Gloria Feldt

Gloria Feldt is the author of No Excuses: 9 Ways Women Can Change How We Think About Power. Buy the book here. Engage Gloria for a Speech or Workshop. Tweet @GloriaFeldt and connect on Facebook, LinkedIn, and Google+ Gloria is the co-founder (with Amy Litzenberger) of Take the Lead, a new initiative to prepare and propel women to leadership parity by 2025. Find them @takeleadwomen and on Facebook.

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